Monday, 22 December 2014


I remember when I was pregnant, naming my son was thee most hardest thing ever. My family wanted a traditional name, but the Mister and I-- not so much. We wanted something different. Something unique that no one in our family had.

In my opinion, my family were pretty ignored when it came to naming my son because they were pressuring me to follow their ways. I tried explaining to them that both the mister and I are from different cultures. He is British, and I'm East African. Therefore, we wanted both of our cultures to come in our sons name.

The Mister and I had our own lists of names, and at that point, all we cared about was giving our son a GOOD name. That was just our choice. All the pressure I was getting and the situation that I was in, was absolutely horrible and I couldn't wait for it to be over. 

After our son was born, we found the perfect first and middle name for him. I only told a few people his real name and the rest his middle name because I didn't want any drama. 

My family didn't know my sons first name for a good 12 months. They used to call him by his middle name. I only told them my sons real name a little bit after his 1st birthday. I was expecting them to be shocked, but they knew deep down I wouldn't listen to them, LOL! 

What I've learned from that is, as much as I respect my parents, I had to do this a team. Just me and my mister. And so I've told them, don't worry. I've got this.

If you're going through a similar situation.. it's really important that you stand up for yourself and what you believe in. It's okay to say NO. It's okay to NOT follow their ways if you don't want to. This is your own family now. You and your partner make the choice together, without everyone trying to tell you what to do. It is your life, you're carrying that baby, and you'll be pushing that baby out. Yourself. With the support from your partner. So name he/she whatever you want to. Regardless of whether they'll like it or not. 


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